Antisocial Networking

Bear with me because this is going to sound weird.

So you know how I have been on Facebook and Twitter, right? Well, recently I had a bit of a crisis concerning them.

Here’s the thing: I am an introvert. I grew up something of a loner (yet not really a rebel) and have remained one. I don’t like crowds, I’m uncomfortable at parties (even if I know and like everyone there), and although I can handle mindless chitchat with strangers, I avoid it if I can. I’ve always had few, but close, friends. I hate talking on the phone. I have an almost medicinal need for “alone time” and have no problem being on my own. This is how it’s been pretty much all my life and I’m more or less okay with it.

Recently on both Twitter and Facebook I was feeling a bit overwhelmed. On Twitter, I had added a lot of people I don’t know, but who had followed me, or who were “friends” of “friends”. On Facebook I had added some folks from Boardgamegeek, some co-workers, and again, some “friends” of “friends”. And at some point it tipped, and I was starting to get way too much input. The constant updates from people I barely knew was actually causing me stress, which I know sounds stupid, but there you go.

So last night I did some purging. I dropped a bunch of folks from both services. If you were one of them, I’m sorry, you didn’t do anything wrong. I just reached some kind of psychological limit, I guess.

While I was at it, I also dumped a lot of the blogs I was reading, largely because I wasn’t really reading them. Chief of these was BoingBoing, which had simply become unbearable lately.

Things are a lot better for me now. I feel like there are a lot fewer people chattering at me and expecting something from me. It’s strange, the medication I’ve been on has handled almost every aspect of my depression and other mental foolishness so well that when something like this manifests itself, it kind of throws me off a bit.

Once again, if you don’t get a follow from me or if I don’t approve your friend request, I’m sorry. It’s a limitation of my own. It’s not you, it’s me.

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5 Responses to Antisocial Networking

  1. Anne says:

    I hear ya, Dave. I’m only mildly involved on Facebook, but sometimes even that feels like information overload.

  2. I feel your pain, Dave. You and I may have slightly different strains of the Overwhelmed virus, but I can identify. With my fun genetics via Choroideremia (everyones who doesn’t have it, including people who are professionals in the visual fields thinks of it as an eye disease, but it’s not; it’s a body disease having the most serious effects on the eyes), I can become sensor overwhelmed easily at times. Touch, bright lights, and especialy sound can take me from placid to homicidal in short time. My sister calls me Rainman. Funny, most times. Now I just have to get Ruthie from rearranging the furniture when angry at me…..

  3. esthela says:

    After my, uhm, episode this morning on twitter–some chick unfollowed me which was a HUGE relief because this was the chick that updated every 4 seconds during television shows or sports games or newscasts and I had no idea how to unfollow her without feeling like a bitch about it. I unfollowed her now. I don’t even KNOW her so what I’m asking is, can I have some of what you’re taking–there are a few more people I could stand to ditch too..

  4. Dave says:

    “Here’s the thing: I am an introvert. I grew up something of a loner (yet not really a rebel) and have remained one. I don’t like crowds, I’m uncomfortable at parties (even if I know and like everyone there), and although I can handle mindless chitchat with strangers, I avoid it if I can. I’ve always had few, but close, friends. I hate talking on the phone. I have an almost medicinal need for “alone time” and have no problem being on my own. This is how it’s been pretty much all my life and I’m more or less okay with it.”

    Dude, I could have written that paragraph almost word for word. Truthfully, I just can’t do facebook/myspace/twitter etc. because I feel like I’m swimming in a sea of other peoples’ bullshit.

  5. Mike the complete stranger says:

    Good for you man. I know how it is.